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After Realizing I Was Same-sex attracted, I Left My Wife—And the Mormon Church
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Below, Devon Gibby, 36, shares the journey he took to leave his religion and finally accept his sexuality.
I GREW UP in the Church of Jesus Chris of Latter-day Saints (more commonly known as the Mormon church), and that informed how I lived my life and adorable much every choice I made. I knew from fairly early on that I was gay, but my religious environment didn't allow me to hold any kind of robust exploration of my sexual identity, and there were no other gay people I could talk to. I'd always wanted to be a father, and as far as I was aware, gay dads didn't even exist. So when I came support from my Mormon mission in 2008 at the age of 21, I married a woman, and we very quickly had two children.
It wasn't until I was married with kids that the cracks in what I mind I believed started to show, and I to
As a gay Mormon, I make my home in the borderlands. In a theology that says every man must be married to a woman in order to be with God and progress in heaven, gay Mormons are anomalies. No one quite knows what to do with us.
For a while, the answer was to serve a full-time mission, join a woman, explain no one, and let things operate themselves out.
When that approach led to tragedy and broken families, the answer became celibacy, which is less of an address and more of a holding pattern in a religion that declares the family to be “the most vital unit in hour and in eternity.”
Every question, from “How can I be happy with no possibility of conclusion a companion?” to “Will I still be gay after this life?” seems to be met with official answers amounting to “Have faith. It will work out in the end.” And, yet, despite these difficult and unanswered questions, I select to continue to participate in my Latter-day Saint congregation and community.
So if I don’t pertain, why stay? There are plenty of affirming faith communities where queer people and their families have a place at the table as equals. But Mormonism is part of me
The Gay Mormon Reformation | Ep. 1484
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Same-Sex Attraction
Same-sex attraction refers to emotional, physical, or sexual attraction to a person of the equal gender. The intended meaning of gender in the family proclamation is biological sex at birth. The experience of same-sex attraction is not the similar for everyone. Some people may sense exclusively attracted to the same gender, while others may feel attracted to both genders.
The Church distinguishes between homosexual attraction and lgbtq+ behavior. People who experience same-sex attraction or identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual can construct and keep covenants with God and fully and worthily participate in the Church. Identifying as gay, lesbian, or bisexual or experiencing same-sex attraction is not a sin and does not prohibit one from participating in the Church, holding callings, or attending the temple.
Sexual purity is an essential part of God’s schedule for our happiness. Sexual relations are reserved for a man and female who are married and promise conclude loyalty to each other. Sexual relations between a dude and woman who are not married, or between people of the alike sex, violate one of our Father in Heaven’s most important laws and get in the way of our