How to know if my friend is gay

Someone who is coming out feels close enough to you and trusts you sufficiently to be trustworthy and risk losing you as a friend. It can be difficult to know what to say and what to do to be a supportive friend to someone who has “come out” to you. Below are some suggestions you may wish to follow.

• Thank your comrade for having the courage to explain you. Choosing to tell you means that they own a great deal of respect and trust for you.
• Don’t determine your friend. If you have powerful religious or other beliefs about LGBTIQ communitites, keep them to yourself for now. There will be plenty of time in the future for you to think and talk about your beliefs in illumination of your friend’s identity.
• Respect your friend’s confidentiality. Allow them the integrity to give what they crave , when and how they want to.
• Tell your friend that you still care about them, no matter what. Be the friend you contain always been. The main fear for people coming out is that their friends and family will reject them.
• Don’t be too serious. Sensitively worded humor may ease the tension you are both probably feeling.
• Ask questions you may have, but understand that your friend

  How Do I Help My Lgbtq+ Friend?

  by D’Ann Davis

  “How do I help my gay friend?”  This is a question we overhear constantly in the Living Wish office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world.  Twenty years ago rare Christians asked this question, for few knew any same gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were ignorant to their friend’s struggles.  Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as queer or deals with a measure of same gender attractions.  Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of existence where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this ask is of utmost importance in light of the change of our culture and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly talk about their issues.  So how does one help a gay-identified confidant or SGA friend?

  The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question.  “Does your friend know Jesus?”  This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attempting to help a friend deal with her sexual attractions.  This is because there are two different ro

  Understanding the Situation

  Sexual orientation is a personal matter, and unless your friend explicitly tells you, you can never be 100% sure. However, if you’re wondering whether your buddy might be queer, either because you suspect they’re struggling with their individuality or you consider they might hold feelings for you, it’s important to approach the topic with sensitivity and respect.

  Here are some common signs that might indicate your friend is male lover and how to navigate the situation without making assumptions or making them uncomfortable.

  1. They Shun Talking About Their Love Life

  If your friend dodges conversations about crushes or relationships but is comfortable talking about every other aspect of their being, it might be because they’re not ready to debate their sexual orientation.

  Examples:

  • They change the subject when someone asks about their online dating life.
  • They rarely refer any romantic interests.
  • They seem uncomfortable when discussing relationships with the opposite gender.

  This doesn’t necessarily indicate they’re gay, some people are just private, but if combined with other signs, it might be a clue.

  2. They Show a Strong Interest in LGBTQ+ Topics
  

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  1 they see each other once a week to swig in a bar, when they do and acquire drunk, my boyfriends same-sex attracted friend starts complementing him  in front of me , like his handsome, touching his arm ( in a way that makes me uncomfortable), looking him with this in love eyes. start making inappropriate joke

  2 he had a picture of a naked guy that looks like my boyfriend and even he shows the pictures to everybody. and he start saying  DOESNT HE LOOK LIKE HIM???

  3  he told my lover that he heard that i was dating one of his friends  a couple of times( guy that I don’t even know). obviously lies.. don’t know what was exactly his intention.

  4 he invited my boyfriend first  to an island  and a week after he mentioned and then he invited me .. ( last minute) obiously my boyfriend/girlfriend didn’t go.

  5  he always pays for everything, dinner, uber,  all the slurp in the bar ( mos